Emotional and identity considerations

How do I feel when I imagine myself as a parent?

Try to sit with this question for a moment. Does the idea bring up excitement, anxiety, calm, uncertainty, or perhaps all of these at once?

What fears come up for me?

It's natural to have worries. You might find yourself thinking about things like:

• Losing a sense of freedom or independence
• Financial pressures and whether you'll have enough
• How your relationships might change—with your partner, family, or friends
• Whether you'll be a "good enough" parent

Naming your fears can help you work through them, and identify where you might need support.

What hopes come up for me?

Alongside the fears, there may also be hopes—perhaps for the kind of parent you want to be, the relationship you'd like to have with your child, or what this new chapter could bring to your life.

How will I continue to maintain my own identity and interests?

Parenthood is a big part of life, but it doesn't have to be all of who you are. It's worth thinking about how you might hold onto the things that matter to you—like your friendships, hobbies, career aspirations, or personal goals—even as your life changes.

What lifestyle adjustments might I need to make?

Consider how your day-to-day life might shift. This could include your routines, social life, work or study commitments, and how you spend your time and energy.

Thinking ahead can help you feel more prepared.

Who am I, beyond being a mother?

This is a question many parents reflect on.

Your identity is made up of many parts: your values, your relationships, your passions, your history. Becoming a parent adds a new dimension, but it doesn't erase who you already are.